15 Things I learned in 2014

2014 was a year of big changes for me, mostly because I gave birth to my son. I decided to write the lessons learned in 2014, which is a continuation of the 13 lessons learned in my post from 2007.

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15 Things I learned in 2014

Motherhood is the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. There is no possible way to fully prepare for the worry, fear, joy, pain and love that consumes the heart. No matter what you think it will be like, you will be wrong, and it’s not a bad thing.

People are nosy, but incredibly empathetic. Strangers and friends will ask all about your pregnancy, baby and life and will offer unsolicited advice. They don’t always want to be the expert, but they offer advice because they were surprised by not knowing it at the time.

The best response to unsolicited advice is “I’ll think about that, thank you.”

People will think you’re incredibly brave for not wanting to know certain things ahead of time, and crazy for not knowing other things.

Some friends will ask for advice, only to tell you that you don’t know what they’re going through. Your ability to empathize and put yourself in their shoes won’t matter, as they need to push you away to feel better about themselves. They want their pain to be special and your empathy takes that away.

People do not fit into neat little categories, no matter how many online quizzes we take.

I am constantly amazed by the generosity of some while I take others for granted. l need to be more grateful to those around me.

The human body is an amazing thing. It shifts, grows and reorganizes to accommodate another human being, then functions on little sleep over long periods of time. I shouldn’t take it for granted.

Ask for help. You never have to go through it alone.

Ideas happen when you least expect them. Make time for the muse, even if its only for five minutes, even if only to jot down ideas.

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Five minutes of creative time per day makes me inspired. Twenty minutes a day of creative time restores my soul.

Projects and deadlines cone and go. No matter how exciting projects are, I should not take them too personally. There will always be budgets, tough clients, and tougher critics. At some point I just have to trust my training, my instincts and my team.

I can live in the moment, focus on what really matters without planning everything. I can prioritize.

The worst feelings in the world can be made easier with a friendly smile, especially that of a baby.

The ideas worth pursuing are still the ideas pursuing you.

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2 thoughts on “15 Things I learned in 2014

  1. Heather: I heard the rumours but it’s great to hear the news directly on the new baby directly from Mum. Congratulations to you and Keith and keep up the good work! Canada needs more people more than it needs Architects. The profession and all it’s cafuffle will be waiting when you’re ready to return. And remember to sign the little guy up for hockey now!. He can decide to play, or not, later. Regards, S.Q.


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